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A Samaritan Approach

A Samaritan Approach

By: D.C. Constant

There was a woman at the well-retrieving water when she met a Jewish man. The Jewish man asked her to retrieve a drink of water for Him. The woman was shocked! She was a Samaritan and historically Jews had nothing to do with the Samaritan people.

However, the man began to ask her a series of questions, concerning her marital status and about the man she was currently having relations with. When she answered, she didn’t have a husband, the man said, you’ve answered truthfully, and the man you’re with now isn’t your husband either. The woman was now intrigued. How did this man know about her? The man then revealed if she wanted, she could have everlasting water where she would never thirst again.

This man was Jesus. He didn’t recite back to her what she already knew about her sins, nor did he call her names, like slut, whore, or adulterer.   He did something different.

He gave her some new information.

Let me share a true story.

When the Supreme Court ruled same sex marriages legal across the country over two years ago, I spoke with several colleagues of mine who are in ministry and was rather grieved by some of the responses. The common phrases were:

  • “They’re going to Hell!!!”
  • “Those gays can’t come to MY CHURCH!”
  • “They’re just NASTY!!!”
  • “It’s an Abomination!!!”
  • “I feel uncomfortable around gays.”
  • “I don’t want my kids around those gays.”
  • “Aren’t gay people child molesters?”
  • “They just need to stay in the F@#$%ing Closet!”


I listened quietly. When I was given the opportunity to speak, I said, “WOW! Sooooooooooo just for clarification, what I am hearing you say is, only gay people are nasty, going to hell, and can’t come to “your” church, (not God’s church) but the fornicators, adulterers, pedophiles, and porn watchers who sit in “your” church practicing these sexual sins, aren’t nasty, going to hell and they can stay in “your” church???

Long silent pause…then a click and then they unfriended me on Social Media. I was later accused of being a “gay lover” and on my way to Hell right along with them.

That’s the church’s “agape” love for you, but I digress.

Anyhoo, since I was hung up on, I will share with you the point I would have shared with this certain individual. I’m against all sexual sins and as the Body of Christ, we can’t pick and choose which sexual sins we deem to be more acceptable than the other. How do you openly call gay people “faggots” and “sissies” but not openly call fornicators “sluts” and “whores?” If you’re going to condemn sexual immorality, COVER ALL OF IT!

Is it possible for you to give people some new information? About Jesus Christ and The Living Water?

Is it too much to ask you look past someone’s sin you deem unworthy of God’s grace, so God can actually use you to show them the agape love you ‘re always preaching and shouting about?

Is it too much to ask for you to have “A Samaritan Approach?” You know, the same approach God had with you, when you were in your mess, and still struggling (yes even after being saved) in areas of your life that’s messy which you practice behind closed doors where no one else can see?

The next time you’re ready to condemn anyone to Hell for sinning differently than you, do what Jesus did, try The Samaritan Approach, and not “The Holy than Thou Approach.”

Asking God to convict and correct Christians of their Hypocrisy. 

Scriptural Reference John Chapter 4



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  • Stephanie Shea
    Posted at 15:00h, 15 June Reply

    Wow I never looked at it that way. Honestly if I saw a gay person in the church I would give them the side eye. That’s why I started going to a church that preach/studied about not condoning sexual immorality regardless if you are gay or not. The difference is… being gay is more openly seen then fornicators. So I guess that’s why they get stones thrown at them. To me it’s really about your relationship with God and how you let the word influence your lifestyle. I was a fornicator until I started hearing about your relationship with your husband and the path you guys took. I also heard a message by Dr. R.A. Vernon called Love, Sex, and Relationship, I have not looked back!!

  • Jim Barnett
    Posted at 17:15h, 11 July Reply

    So True!

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